When it comes to relationships, most Puyallup campus students say they believe in second chances.
When surveyed in mid-February, 90 percent of the students who were asked about giving a boyfriend or girlfriend a second chance agreed they would give it a go.
But exactly how much would students really be willing to forgive an ex who wants to rekindle that old flame?
Brooke N., who wished to keep her last name anonymous, said her boyfriend of two years broke up with her because he said they were “more like good friends.”
She said she felt “sad and confused because it was so sudden.
“We’d known each other since before high school. Our families are close and I hang out with his little sister a lot,” Brooke said.
Three weeks later she spotted him at the gym with a new girlfriend. Brooke’s heart was broken, but she recovered quickly.
On Valentine’s Day this year, Brooke’s ex-boyfriend called. He said he wanted to get back together.
“He realized he made a mistake and he loves me,” Brooke says.
She said she would need to think about resuming their relationship.
Many students surveyed on campus changed their initial opinions on giving second chances after they asked for more about the details about a hypothetical break-up situation.
Overwhelmingly, 90 percent agreed the second time that if someone had broken up with them and then had any kind of sexual relationship with someone else, it was over.
Another student who didn’t want to be identified said, “I tried second, third and fourth chances, but in the end, I had to quit trying to have an intimate relationship with her so I could help her to raise my kid since I’m the father and she’s the baby mama.”
When it’s a mutual decision to spend time apart, then 98 percent of students and even some staff members agreed they’d give a past lover a second chance in a heartbeat.
For most students, relationships are about respect and friendship.
Trust plays a part in most students’ decision of whether or not they want to give someone a second chance.
Desiree N., who also didn’t want to use her last name, said, “If I take him back, then I look stupid. I could get any guy I want so why should I take a guy back when he could do the same thing to me all over again and make me look stupid again. Do you think I look stupid or something?”
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