Whether you work somewhere that fuels the Valentine’s Day craziness, are the only one of your friends who is single, just got out of a relationship or always have spent Valentine’s Day single, don’t let it get to you.
You would be an idiot to waste this amazing day doing the usual pathetic things that single people do to celebrate Valentine’s Day: getting candy on sale on Feb. 15 and celebrating the cynical and depressing “Single’s Awareness Day.” Instead, enjoy the bigger and better reasons to love not being in a relationship no matter the day of the year it is.
Take time to realize that it’s the perfect time to do what you want and have fun. Hang out with friends, develop your existing relationships and definitely be spontaneous. Take that trip you always wanted to go on or go out in a group and do something wild and crazy.
Also, use this time to hone and practice your flirting techniques—use it or lose it. When you have nothing to lose, it might be interesting to experiment with your flirting and maybe meet new people in the process. It might be embarrassing if someone doesn’t get your flirty jokes and they think that you are a psychopath because you have the same sense of humor as Lorelei and Rori in Girlmore Girls. But that’s what I like to call a learning experience, and next time you’ll know what not to say.
Don’t be afraid to still give out Valentine’s Day cards. Valentine’s Day isn’t just for steamy lovers—mothers, friends or anyone you care about also deserve valentines. It’s a good excuse to let those who mean something to you be reminded of how much you love them. Plus it’s fun, just like in kindergarten when every student got a card (but we all know that you put extra stickers on that Scooby Doo Card for the class cutie).
If you aren’t currently in a romantic relationship, then at least for now it isn’t meant to be. Putting pressure on yourself or creating expectations for any sort of relationship, especially romantic relationships, isn’t going to be healthy or rewarding. Valentine’s Day isn’t a deadline to get in a relationship, or a goal to stay in a relationship.
Being alone is better than getting involved in something artificial or forced.
Better yet, spend time working on yourself. Any stage in your life, especially between the ages of 18 to mid-20s, is a good time to psychologically work on your independence. Just like everyone was told during puberty, we all mature at different rates and not everyone knows who they are due to demanding student schedules. Being in a serious relationship during a time when you are personally developing can be detrimental to that relationship and to your personal growth.
Personally, I’d rather prioritize discovering and nurturing who I am now rather than when I am 40, divorced and swimming in a sea of cats that haven’t been declawed.
Valentine’s Day can be overwhelming for singles, so don’t beat yourself up if you buy a giant heart full of chocolate, watch The Notebook alone for the three-hundredth time and cry over that ex-partner—it’s completely normal, even on Valentine’s Day.
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