Remember when you were a budding teenager with a crush? I remember being nervous, scared and goo-goo eyed. I spent countless hours dressing up to impress my crush giving “the girls” a chance to work their charms. Sometimes the energy I put into impressing a boy paid off and at other times it didn’t.
Maybe a blind date would have been easier than going through all that trouble and energy. After all, it can be difficult mustering the courage to approach someone, even scary at times. For most of us, feeling vulnerable can bedown right nauseating. But how can we ensure blind dating success?
“Blind-dating is not what it used to be. This generation does not do blind-dating,” student Hannah Bryan said.
We know the blind-dating fears and nightmares: being stood up or the person not looking anything like the picture you saw. What if your would be suitor turns out to be a stalker, or worse, a serial killer? Maybe it would be easier if your date just didn’t like you.
“My parents were set up on a blind date when they were in high school,” student Mystery Culver said.
It seems that blind-dating is changing. Culver said her parents have been married for 25 years and have two children. Not the typical outcome with today’s relationships.
“I believe it was their junior year. They dated for about two years, then got married,” Culver said.
Pierce College student Courtney Cloutier has been on six blind dates and has online profiles with more then one website. One of her dates went from just one to a second, and then didn’t go any further. She had a date that didn’t work into a relationship, but instead, they became best friends. They see each other three times a week.
Cloutier said the benefit to these dates is that for one night, “I get to make an impression on someone new. I can be as silly or as sexy as I want. Usually there is a dinner or what I prefer, coffee.”
She says it’s exciting and fun—a real self-esteem booster so she can feel wanted and pretty.
But anyone swimming in a sea of websites can easily become dazed and confused. What are the “do’s and “don’t’s? What are the pros and cons? Cloutier said these are the “do’s: bring pepper spray, let someone know where you’re going and avoid topics that can start arguments (religion, sports and racist comments).
Cupidnights.com says to be a good listener and keep the conversation light.
“Don’t talk about your ex’s and don’t wear high heels,” said Cloutier. Why no heels you ask? Maybe he’s short or maybe you’ll have the urge to run. Either way, stick to comfortable shoes.
Cupidnights.com says not to spend too much time talking about your job and don’t stretch the date too long.
Don’t build expectations. For example, if your friend sets you up and says that your date drives a BMW, don’t instantly think “loaded.” He could’ve borrowed it from someone or maybe he’s up to his eyeballs in debt and he wastes money. Tone down your expectations. Keep an open mind and just enjoy yourself. If there are sparks, great. If not, then there are more fish in the sea.
Armed with information, and with Valentine’s Day knocking at the door, now is a great time to get out and try some of these techniques on your own. Make that connection you have always dreamed of and never settle for less then you deserve.
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