To love and be loved in return


Tabby Arnold


Every year when February comes, the “in a relationship” icon on Facebook can cause mixed emotions for people. While some are fond of the single life, others are pining for love.

Individuals who are in relationships think of Valentines Day as a chance to celebrate their mutual infatuation with a significant other. These couples are the ones who walk around in a daze due to their painfully joyous state, holding each other and dreaming of the future. Many people who are without a partner are annoyed by these lovers who walk around hand-in-hand, showing off their love for all to see. Instead of letting the little green eyed monster crawl up, individuals should avert their eyes and just let them bask in their happiness—they deserve it.

Having a relationship is hard work; it takes sacrifice, forgiveness and most importantly, a whole lot of love. Many battles come up in a relationship, and finding the difference between “being in love” and loving someone is one of those. If a couple has worked through the first stages of lovey nonsense and the partners are still together, they deserve a congratulatory pat on the back, not an accusing glare.

One of the upsides of being in a long-term, monogamous relationship is having someone to do things with. A partner should enrich life, sharing new things is one way to do that. There are many activities that require a partner. Near the holidays, there’s ice skating or light shows such as Fantasy Lights that you don’t want to do alone. In the summer, going on a hike or playing Frisbee in the park with a loved one can really emphasize the beautiful day. At any time of the year, a partner makes the difference between a mediocre time and an excellent time when you’re out and about.

A loved one is also valuable because that person provides comfort through the good times and the bad. Recounting the stories of the day isn’t necessarily exciting or interesting, but sometimes it just feels good to know someone is listening. When times do get tough, that person offers comfort and support.

Equally important to sharing sorrows and trivial points of the day is having someone to share laughter with. A partner should be just as much a best friend as a boyfriend or girlfriend, someone who will take you as you are so you know you can always be yourself.

Another positive of being in a relationship is the feeling of importance. Humans have a need to be loved and cherished. To fulfill that need for someone else and have it fulfilled in return is to accomplish what many people search for their entire lives. Loving someone feels good—it’s as simple as that.

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To love and be loved in return

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